"Movember" 20

Going to attempt to get through some newspaper today. Get my thoughts down and out. For those of you out there reading this, thanks for taking the time. Please feel free to become a follower and leave comments.

"This one is going to be a long one"
This come the the Detroit News from November 11th. A girl named Samantha Kelly handged herself on Monday. She told friends that she couldn't take the abuse that came from kids at school and in the neighborhood where she lived.

A boy by the name of Joseph Tarnopolski was accused and charged with a felony charge of having sex with the girl. She was 14 years old.

Samantha was to have testified on Wednesday. The 34 district Judge Brian Oakley instead granted a request ny the Wayne County Prosecuter's Office to dismiss the case. They did not have enough evidence to prove that a crime had been committed. A spokeswomen for the case stated "As a result,we had to dismiss the case."

Samantha's friends and family are angry. They should be if indeed this girl was raped. It states in the artical that the hospital where the girl was taken failed to take a DNA sample. That's a huge oppsie doodle. Later in the story it states that both the kids stated that they had sex in Joe's parents mobile home and that it was planned. Under Michigan law, no one under the age of 16 can consent to sex. REALLY? The way I see it is that this law is only help up when some one is caught. I don't know this girl,her family or her up bringing. I do know that at the age of 14 girls hormones are raging just like this boys were. Teen sex happens all the time. Let's snap into reality here. This "couple" probable had sex more then once. This time they just got caught. I am not trying to make fun or lessen anything here. If the girl was truly raped this boy should go to jail. The story states that he had been charged on October 12th with one count of third-degree criminal sexual conduct, he can go to jail for up to 15 years.

I titled this "this is going to be a long one" for a couple of reasons. I am a 40 year old women that has been raped three time. I grew up in a home where I saw my own Mom raped and beaten by my Dad. Even though I knew what was being done to me was wrong I some how felt that this was what sex was. A women never wants to have sex guys just take it when and where they want it. I never pressed charges against any of them. Today one of them is a cop. I feel responsible everyday that he is out there free. The last rape left me so sick that the doctors told me I would never have any kids of my own. By some the grace of a higher power I have three girls. This brings up another thing that really hit home for me while reading this artical. My oldest daughter who is now 19, clamied she was raped as a freshman in high school. That puts her at the same age as Samantha. I brought her to the hospital as soon as I found out. They did a rape kit on her called in for a social worker and the police to get involved.

As everyone invovled was asking my daughter question I became very aware of some very strange behavior. Sitting there having flash backs, and hearing questions like "when was the last time you showered?" Her response to this was she had showered since the day it happened. The first thing I did was shower. The next question was what clothes were you wearing? Her response "the ones I have on". Seriously? Doubts started to swirl in my head. I didn't want for one minute want to think that my daughter was capable of making up this kind of story. I was sick to my stomache.
The next school day we were called in to see the Superintendant amoung other school officals. They asked me if I thought she was telling the truth. I just sat there for a second and looked at them. I said "I don't want to belive she could make something like this up, but you simply asking me that tells me that is excatly what happened." Here is what happened. My daughter got a pass to go to the bathroom, this boy also got a pass (he was in a different class) to go to they bathroom. They met up and walked to a bathroom, that one was being used, they continued to walk to another bathroom this one was being cleaned. They then walked to another bathroom. You can see this whole even unfold on the camera's found through out the school. The both walked into the third bathroom where they had sex. Consentual sex. They had planned it.
The next day when my daughter went up to this boy he told her to f@#% off. So, to get back at him she began a tale of being raped.
Again, I am not saying that I doubt what these parents are saying, but honestly lets take a good look at our youth today. What they are contanly exposed too. Words to songs that talk about sex, movies that are rated PG or PG 13 that we as parents would rate as "R". I am not blaming it on the media either. Just trying to live in reality.
It's sad that we had to lose another youth to suicide. It's also sad that the families will never know the truth about what happened between the Tranopolski boy and the Kelly's daughter. I hope some day some sort of Justice will be brought to both of these families.

"Another Way to Help"

Terry and jan Blumberg lost their son Trevor shortly after being deployed to Iraq. He died September 14th 2003, when an improvised explosive went off near his vehicle.
Before he was shipped out he told his father "If anything happens to me, I want you to take care of my dog and my guys."
His parents are now building a house where returning vetrans can go with thier families for free. The house is 3,500 square feet, and is handicap accessible. It sits on 12 wooded acres on the Orchard loake near Rogers City. The forest is populated by deer,black bears and turkeys. OH MY!
The house is named "Blum's Landing". It's secluded yet close to fishing streams,hunting grounds and boat launches.
Mr. Terry Blumberg, himself is a vet. He is building this house with his own money and donations of cash and work from Vetran groups. He says it's the least he can do for his son.
The Blumbergs would like to to have the house - a tax exempt public charity- completed by June so vets and their families can hike, fish,and reconnect with each other.
I know a little too much about this. With my husband doing 5 tours in Iraq and other places. Each times he comes home a little different. He craves the sounds of silence and not having to breath in sand. Taking time with your family is the most important thing for any vetran family. As Mr. Blumberg says "They need time with thier families where ther's no hubbub,no pressure. The way I see it he is right. Thanks Mr.Blumberg.
If you want to know how you can help or just learn more about "Blum's Landing" please visit http://www.blumslanding.org/.

"How and Why,WHY!"

In Redford Township and man accused of persuading monther in three states to sexually assault thier children has been indinted on 13 sexual exploitaition charges. WHAT THE F?!!
This was annoucement came from the U.S. Attorney's on Wednesday. It accuses Steven Demink of forging relationships with women on the internet. The "women" all single mothers who were under the age of 18! WTF!! Steven would manipulate them into sexually assaulting young children.
Dimin, is 41. He is facing 15 -30 years in prison if convicted of conspiracy to sexually exploit children and aiding and abetting the exploitation. Steven also could face charges of 5 -20 years if convicted of receiving child pornography,which of course was found on his computer. This could lead up to another 10 years for possessing child porn.
Okay, the way I see it none of this is long enough for what this guy did. I can't even say Man he is no "man". The way I see it we should cut his balls off with a really dull dirty knife and let him bleed out. Seem fair to me.
Authorities have gotten 7 childeren from different states who were under the care of four mothers. What happens to these girls? Are they going to go on and have more kids? The way I see it we just tie their tubes or give them a hystorectomy. They know what they did. SHAME ON ALL OF YOU. THESE WERE YOUR CHILDREN!! YOU WERE SUPPOSE TO LOVE AND CARE FOR THEM.

Thats all for today. I promise more to come. If anyone is really reading this.